Ok...so we had friends over for dinner last night, and it went just according to my plan. These friends are very dear to me, but they are always LATE..if I say 5 they will get there about 6:30..you know the kind I’m talking about (and if you are one of them, I love you anyway, but I HAVE to plan around the late thing, especially with toddlers to feed), I’m digressing....
So I wanted to have dinner round...6-6:30 ish...so I told them to get there @ 5:00. I took a nap until 4:00pm, got up, put my chickens on the rotisserie, sanitized all the chicken goo out of the sinks and off the counters, got the rice and artichokes started made the taco dip and then told hubby I needed to shower...he was like...WHAT!!!!...they are going to be here any minute...I calmly said, no...they will be late, I planned it this way. So off I went. To the haven of my bathroom, with a lock on the door, and no one can get me in there. I took a really long shower, put on my lotion, my make up, perfume, dried my hair, got dressed, me down, and cleaned up my kids, put “ponies” in my 2 year olds hair, and then sat back to my perfectly cooking chicken and had a glass of really good Merlolt. I looked at my clock, it was 6:15, and here come my friends, right according to my plans, with me looking fresh, and my house smelling delish...we had a great night, with good food, good friends and my kids even behaved and were especially entertaining.
But I got to thinking, what is it, in people that causes them to be late, as opposed to on time or early. This week I was picking up a friend, and I had never been to her house, so I didn’t give myself the time I needed to get down into town from my mountain, and was running about 5 minutes late...I was panicking ...seriously dude...I was sweating because I hate hate hate being late...I’m anal, I admit it, but I also can’t help it.
Peace,
OC
I hate it when people are late too. I don't sweat 5 minutes and maybe not 10 or 15. One year, however, a friend was invited to our Thanksgiving dinner. She was almost two hours late. Our dinner got burnt and then cold waiting on her. Then when she arrived she wasn't hungry because it turned out she'd eaten Thanksgiving dinner at someone else's house. I was livid! And she didn't seem to have a clue she ruined our Thanksgiving. Some people are very insensitive.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's anal. When people are seriously late, by which I mean more than 15 minutes, it tells me that they don't care enough to be considerate of me.
ReplyDeleteOnce or twice I will excuse because things happen, but if it is so consistent that I can absolutely rely on it, I tend to reconsider the friendship no matter how charming they are. It's just rude.
I have the same physical reaction to being late--sweating anxiety. But I had a friend in college who told me I wasted as much time being early as most people do being late. My response was always that being early wasted MY time and being late wasted OTHER people's time and one is RUDE and I know which one.
ReplyDeleteI love your blog! I'm so glad you stopped by mine so I could come discover you!
Barb