I feel as if I'm going to throw up.
Hubby basically got nasty yesterday again. He went to look at a house, and was questioned on his income because "he is going to have to pay child support". He came home and ragged all over me, and said that if he "had" to pay child support, he'd "see me in court" for 50% custody. I won't let him have my babies, not using the way he is, so I'm gearing up for a huge ass fight.
I woke up this morning, and the phone book was open to the yellow page listings of "attorneys"...I'm not sure if he has the time to actually get in to see one, we will see. I just can't believe he'd use our kids as pawns..but it looks like he's sunk to a new low.
If that's the case, he's in for the fight of his life.
Peace,
OC
Of course you want to be prepared to fight in court if necessary, but it seems to me that Hubby is the type who lashes out at the start and then, after he's had time to think, realizes how irrational he's being and settles down. He's angry and scared right now and his intent is to hurt you. Just keep plugging along, being the calm one. Either he'll settle down and compromise with you in a fair way or he'll look like a maniac in court and you'll be granted full custody anyway. Not to mention that, as you've stated before, he has NO IDEA how much work it would be for him to be in charge of your kids BY HIMSELF 50% of the time. He's only thinking about kicking you where it counts right now, not the consequences of his behavior.
ReplyDeleteFrom what I have read on your blog I think Earth Muffin has captured my thoughts well too.
ReplyDeleteI guess that a positive to take from your situation is that when your hubby behaves like this it must give you that extra push you need to get you through your wobbly moments.
You need to do what is right for you and what is right for you will ultimately be right for the others close to you also.
that really sucks!! Horriable that he would do something like that. I feel your pain though. I haven't taken my son's father back for full custody or even more childsupport for the same fear.
ReplyDeleteI think EM is right.
ReplyDeleteHe's just had a huge reality check. He can't afford rent on a place he wants because he doesn't make enough money. He's angry and taking it out on you. He might take you to court, depending on how unscrupulous the lawyer is - but no lawyer will take him on unless he has a good chance of winning, which he doesn't. After all, he won't be able to pay his own court costs, and if he loses, the law firm he retains won't go after you.
He will cool off, he'll come to his senses, and he will back off, especially once he realized that 50% custody means that he will actually have to look after the kids 50% of the time.
Fear not. The anger he's expressing is something I've experienced with my ex, although it came out in different ways. And yesterday he came to my birthday party.