I escaped today, again! To the coffee house I found last weekend.
So here I sit on one of these same old couches again, looking out at the traffic and realizing this place makes me feel more like "me" than anyplace I've been in a very long time. I could just hang here for a long time, and probably would if I could get out more.
Feel like I swallowed a toad this weekend. I feel better for sure than I did last week. I have been thinking about just how bad I was feeling last week, and if that's not bottom, I really don't want to get there very bad.
I did sort of lose it with Small Son yesterday. He stayed in his room, I was going to make him eat dinner in his room, but I lost that battle because hubby didn't want to make him. He also went up last night and helped him clean his room. In the end, I was relieved and mad. Mad because after all that time with me spent trying to make a point, hubby ended up cleaning his room after all. I did sit small son down and tell him though, that his destruction of my house was going to end or he would be spending every day in his room. I think he understood, I hope so, because he really is a great kid.
I spent a great deal of time cleaning my own room yesterday, vacuuming the heater vents, the baseboard, under the bed, Oiling all the wood on the furniture, and trying to get some of the clutter and ickiness out of there that has made it nearly crippling for me. I think I pretty much succeeded, as I slept really well last night. I did wake up in the middle of the night without being able to go back to sleep, so I watched Mama Mia on my new iPod and then finally went back to sleep.
Some older guy just started playing really pretty acoustic guitar, and it is just so pleasant in here. The energy is good. Lots of older people.
OK, enough of that.
I can't seem to get enough of ARay singing Romeo and Juliet. There is this one particular version on YouTube, that I was able to import into my iPod via "Videobox". I love that program by the way, it lets you convert Youtube video's into iTunes. Back to ARay, something about her singing in this version, it just rips at me. It's not a very good video even. There is someone standing in the way, and people laughing in the background, but when she says "Ah Juliet, when we made love, you used to cry"....OMG.....I get a pit in my stomach.
What can I say? Sometimes her voice just makes me go weak in the knee's, tummy and brain. Take a listen for yourself.
Sigh...I love that song!
ReplyDeletebig deep sigh, ohmygod. that brings back so many memories for me, i cant even say. i really connected to the indigo girls and melissa, some joan armatrading, some kd. lang, but the girls and melissa have always been my faves. they got me thru some of the darkest moments in my life. these songs connect to that painful angst where i was caught between my old self and my yet undiscovered self, which was who i am now. god, it was painful. the longing alone for that which i didnt understand yet, hurt me right to the core of my being. i too sat in coffee shops, trying to figue myself out. and i too found a few places where i could be me. sometimes it was at a really nice gay bar we have here in omaha, "the max." but not to date anyone, just to be around poeple like me. so many times spent crying my guts out for the pain to stop, torn between my life with my husband and who i really was. baby steps, honey, baby steps.... take your time. it'll come... you WILL get there.
ReplyDeletebut yes, aray and melissa's voices go right thru me, to my soul, and make me feel things i never knew existed. they "sound" gay. they have that "gay" voice that draws me in. by that i mean i can sence someone is gay, call it my gaydar, i dont know, but i can tell by little mannerisms, the voice, the hands, the walk... does anybody know what i'm talking about? but their voices, they hold a strength, a need, a longing, hope, validation, and courage for me. i still turn to them today when i start to feel a little lost again. they help me center myself.
C
and yes, romeo & juliet is one of MY songs, too. i'll tell you that story sometime.
ReplyDeleteC
The red tone of your post struck me. As forceful, powerful, strong. That was good.
ReplyDeleteI am very, very glad you got away. You need to allow yourself to do so. That café might just end up being one of your saving graces. Thank you for including us all in that experience.
Be well, OC.
come for a visit. got some lovin for ya, toots.
ReplyDeleteC
love that song. makes me sigh and then some...
ReplyDeleteglad you found such a cool hang out place. coffee shops rock.