BearsMountain: This is why...This is why...

June 13, 2009

This is why...This is why...

I told hubby this morning I wanted to drive out to this little town. I found a very cute, very large little house on the MLS listings. It has 4 bedrooms, two baths, and enough room to park our "toys". It is also in what is supposed to be a very liberal little artists enclave. So he throws a fit, "Why are you driving out there??? It's 40 miles away?????" Well fuck...It's way way under what I think I can afford to spend on a house, its cute, big, and on a creek in the woods. Fuck...does he think he can tell me where I can or can not live?

I would probably even have enough money (maybe) to buy a more fuel efficient car for the days it's not bad weather. So I'm going to look, I'm going to "suss" out the little town and see what the drive is like. I so badly need to live somewhere pretty.

Wish me luck, I will take pictures!

Peace,

OC

3 comments:

Kel6/13/2009 12:22 PM
OC... Go look at this house if you must --- but be cautious... In the same way your credit cards are community property, so could other purchases.. Especially once he gets over his initial hurt, and starts to be hurtful towards you! My son's father was nice in the beginning, then very revengeful for about 2 years after! It made visitations horrible.. My son and I both dreaded the weekends he went over there because his dad always went against the court order to stay inside -- instead he always came out to the car and started a huge fight every time I went to pick him up... The order was that we were both to stay inside while my son (he was 5 at the time) walked out to our vehicles. This was put in place by the judge because we were very volatile at the time.

Be FIRM -- don't take any of his shit.. He's hurt now, and trying to be nice -- but it will backfire if you give in to him. You can move anywhere you choose. Just consider MAYBE renting a small place till the divorce is final... Don't expect him to be nice when it comes time to split up the financial stuff. He could use the kids and custody etc to get what he wants out of you.

This divorce is the only way you can eventually be completely true to yourself! It is none of his business who you are with, but he will try to make it his business.

Sorry --- I seem to have rambled a bit.... I just dealt with the ex yesterday -- he was here for my son's graduation from high school. At lease we can be cordial now -- but it took a long time to get here.
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Rebecca6/13/2009 7:23 PM
I can't add much more to what Kelly just said....
But I wanted to let you know I am very glad I found your blog through mine.
You will get through it, and it won't be easy, but it is sooooo very worth it all.
All my best to you!
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Mon6/13/2009 7:40 PM
Thanks Kelly, I'm not going to "do" anything like buy a house until the legal separation papers are filed, then I am free to do what I want. But quite truthfully, I am feeling the need to get the hell out of dodge, and I am considering renting something for me and the kids for 6 months until I figure out what I want to do.

Rebecca, glad I found your blog too. There are more of us out there than I suspect I think.
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