The First Day of The Rest of My Life

I talked to a good friend of mine today. She is also someone who is friends with Hubby...to be known now on as "Dufus". Anyway, she told me, OMG..you can't imagine how bitter he is at you. I said "I know", and she basically told me that "I didn't know", that it was way worse than was suspected.

That it was my fault that he was having to sell the house, that it was my fault that he was "going to get stuck paying child support" (he said that verbatim to her more than once), that he was getting turned down for housing, etc...I told her when he talks to me, it sounds like he "hates me" and she said, "I think he does actually, you've taken his whole life away as far as he's concerned."

So anyway, I sent him an email letter today that I went through my lawyer first, letting him know I will not be cleaning the house, that I will split a cleaning service to do this, that the parenting plan is already in effect and next weekend was his weekend, and that if he continues to live at the house, he can pay all related bills, that I will split all costs as long as he is out of it, but if he lives there, I will not subsidize it for him. I also let him know I would be turning off his cell phone on 8/1/09 and that he needed to get that taken care of first.

I'm just so done with this. It's amazing, that getting out of the actual situation, has given me the courage to really stand up to him. I have realized I do not have to deal with his hatefulness. I can go through my attorney. I do not have to let him in my house, or be held hostage to his moods. I can demand that he keep up his end of the parenting plan we both signed on. I can do whatever it is that I want now.

I can't believe I'm really in my own beautiful townhouse. It really is coming together. It looks pulled together and beautiful. It's cool in here compared to the house, and the kids have relaxed.

Peace,

OC